A. be able to define what emotional intelligence is;B. analyze your own emotional intelligence level;C. increase your emotional intelligence, by applying the suggestions regarding the development of EQ.
Many of us find it increasingly difficult to connect in the modern world, both with others and ourselves. An important factor in our ability to successfully connect is emotional intelligence. When it comes to happiness and success in our relationships or career and personal goals, emotional intelligence (EQ) matters just as much as the more well known, intellectual ability (IQ). We need emotional intelligence to turn intention into action, in order to make informed decisions about the things that matter most to us, and to connect to others in productive and nurturing ways.
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Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to:
- relieve stress,
- communicate effectively,
- empathize with others,
- overcome challenges and
- defuse conflict.
This ability also allows us to recognize and understand what others are experiencing emotionally. This recognition and understanding is, for the most part, a nonverbal process, that informs thinking and influences how well you connect with others.
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Emotional intelligence differs from how we think of intellectual ability, in that emotional intelligence is a learned—not acquired.
This learning can take place at any time of life so the social and emotional skill set, known as emotional intelligence, is something
we can all have.
It is important to remember that there is a difference, however, between learning about emotional intelligence and applying that knowledge to your life. Just because you know you should do something does not mean you will—especially when you become overwhelmed by stress, which can override your best intentions. In order to permanently change behavior in
ways that stand up under pressure, you need to learn how to overcome stress in the moment and in your relationships in order to remain emotionally aware.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves and for managing emotions effectively in others and ourselves. An emotional and social competency is a learned ability, based on emotional intelligence, which contributes to effective performance at work.
Daniel Goleman, one of the lead researchers on the field of emotional intelligence, talks about why we are cooperative in one situation, while in another we are not.
TIPS AND TRICKS:
How to develop Emotional Intelligence – Step by step
Part 1: Tapping into your emotions
1. Note your emotional reactions to events throughout the day
2. Pay attention to your body
3. Observe how your emotions and behavior are connected
4. Avoid judging your own emotions
5. Notice patterns in your emotional history
6. Practice deciding how to behave
7. Notice patterns in your emotional history
8. Practice deciding how to behave
Part 2: Connecting with other people
1. Be open-minded and agreeable
2. Improve your empathy skills
3. Read people’s body language
4. See the effect you have on others
5. Practice being emotionally honest
Part 3: Putting EQ to practical use
1. See where you have room for improvement
2. Lower your stress level by raising your EQ
3. Be more light-hearted at home and at work
Emotional intelligence is as important part of our success as is cognitive intelligence, or in fact, it may be even more important. In recent years, science has has increasingly focused on this area. The training material will teach us what we mean emotional intelligence, what the main areas of development are, and how these processes and practices can help us.
THINK OF SOME ANSWERS TO THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS:
Think about your place on the five areas of emotional intelligence! (Self-awareness, self-management, self-motivation, empathy, handling relationship)
Do an emotional intelligence test, and compare the result with your previously defined self-image! (Many types of questionnaires are available in your own language as well, here is one in English: http://www.maetrix.com.au/meit/eitest.html)
Based on what you have learned make plans on how you will start to develop your emotional intelligence and get it started now!